MY SISTER IS HAVING A BABY.
I can't stop saying it. I randomly text her in the middle of the day to gush. I am so freaking excited.
When she told me on the phone, I cried. I was so happy and shocked and happy and shocked. I never thought any of my siblings would have kids. I never thought my kids would have cousins on my side of the family. I never thought I would have a Carr niece or nephew to totally love. (Btw, Cheri, Dani, and I all know it is a girl. She is. We know.)
Brian had to tell me to stop calling her "my" baby. Because, I do. She is my baby. I called Cheri and she said not to be silly, of course she is my baby.
That's just how it is with sisters.
It is obviously Cheri's child and she will be an amazing mom, but that little baby is also mine. My sister's children will always be mine - no matter what. Simple.
She is due February 6th, so look for some cold and insane posts from NYC come late January/early February as I make the trek to her house to help for a few weeks. She did it for me for both of my kids and the days she showed up on my doorstep were the days I knew I would survive having kids. It was never real until Cheri was there, and I hope I can offer her the same support and peace of mind. (Btw, Cheri got a tenure-track philosophy professor position at a college in NYC, so she and Alex are moving in a few short weeks!)
My message to my sister, because I am a cheese-mo and would never be able to actually say this stuff to her in real life:
I am so happy for you. You are going to be an incredible mom. Incredible. I know you are nervous about having a baby so far away from family right when you start a new job. That's ok. As soon as I found out you were having a baby, it seemed so perfect that you would have it in the city while pursuing your academic career. That kid will be jumping on subways and visiting museums, critiquing modern art and music, and quoting Kant and Shakespeare by age 5. And I love that pretentious little know-it-all baby. She's just a mini-Cheri after all!
And you really are going to be amazing at this. Do you know how I know? Because you already are. You always have been.
I was your shadow as a toddler and little girl. Painfully shy at times, you were my protector and voice. You were the creative force behind our games and the spark to our imaginations. You made up our secret language and I can still read your mind I know that you know this is all true.
You were my idol in my teens and early adulthood. You were so unique and strong and smart. All the things I so desperately wanted to be. You helped me understand the poems in Mr. Savage's class, you stood up for me in front of high school bullies, and you gave me the courage to leave our family for college and start my own life on my own two feet.
You are the best sister in the world. You gave up your own plans to live with me for weeks when I had Jeremy and Violet. You timed my contractions. You shared my disappointment at the false alarms. You calmed down Brian when my water broke. I will never forget making eye contact with you when we found out Jeremy was in danger and needed the emergency c-section - you were so calm and confident that all would be ok. Both Brian and I needed you in that moment and you came through big time. You put on my make-up and straightened my hair so I would be pretty in pictures post-baby. You cleaned my house and cooked me meals. You rocked my babies and got up with them at all hours so I could sleep. You helped me when I wanted to quit nursing or when I was in so much pain I could barely walk.
You are an extraordinary aunt. Jeremy and Violet love you so much. You spend time with them and treat them like people, not babies. You teach them to cook and take them to parks and exhibits. I am sure one day they will disappear and I will find that they have run off to NYC to live with their much-cooler-than-me Aunt Cheri. And when they do, I know you will welcome them with open arms, give them what they need, and call me immediately.
I know you will be a great mom because I have seen it first hand. You were a mom to me as a child, as a teen, and as an adult. You are a mom to my kids and I am so happy for that.
You are going to totally kick ass at this motherhood thing, and I can't wait to see it first hand.
Oh, and one more thing:
YOU ARE HAVING A BABY! GAH! CRAZY!! I'M SO EXCITED!!
|sisters in weird hats|
|sisters on a table|
|Jeremy's false alarm|
|Jeremy in the middle of the night|
|Trying to make me pretty before Violet|
|Violet in the middle of the night|